Seven Words to Change Your Family

Family and it's definition have been in the spotlight of
late. Everyday someone is on the television or radio
talking about "their" view of family. More emphatically,
they spend a lot of time and energy, and money, telling us
what "our" view of family should be. Family is under
attack, both directly, and indirectly. As Christians we
are to defend family, and promote strong families as the
building blocks of our community, our state, and our
country. I ask you today, is your family where you want
it to be? or would you like some measure of change? If
you are honest with yourself and God, you should always
want to better your family relationships.


My opinion, for what it is worth, is that in order
for the world to embrace traditional family values and
structure, we must model it.

Jesus put it like this;

Mat 5:16
Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your
good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.

God designed marriage and family, so for the Christian,
we must live as God would have us live. The relationships
we have before a lost and dying world, are the closest
some will ever get to a Bible.

2 Cor 3:2-3
You are our epistle written in our hearts, known and read
by all men; clearly you are an epistle of Christ,
ministered by us, written not with ink but by the Spirit
of the living God, not on tablets of stone but on tablets
of flesh, [that is], of the heart.

Part 1: Three Healing Words
Word 1; Forgiveness
Word 2: Blessing
Word 3: Honor

Part 2: Three Building Words
Word 4; Truth
Word 5; Church
Word 6; Commitment

Part 3: One Transforming Word
Word 7; Love

Three Healing Words;
Word 1; Forgiveness

The Grace of God changed everything. It changed
each of us who call on the Name of Jesus. We searched and
found forgiveness in the blood of the Lamb. No longer
would we ever be the same, we were changed, from the
inside out.

We were taken out of Adam, and placed IN Christ
Taken from Darkness, to Light
from death, to life
we were walking away from God, and now nothing can
separate us from the Love of God which is in Christ Jesus.


When the Father looks at us, He sees us through the lens
of His dear son. Romans tell us there is "No more
condemnation for those who are is Christ.
I ask you this; if Forgiveness can do all those eternal
changes, how far can it go in our temporal lives. A lack
of forgiveness in the believers life, robs us of joy,
peace, and fellowship. It replaces it with bitterness,
turmoil, and separation. Our relationship with God was
healed with forgiveness, our troubled relationships can
only begin to heal after we forgive. It begins in our
heart. Healing always begins within and flows out. Pride
has to be put under the boot and crushed. It so often
stands in the way of healing.

Jesus on Forgiveness;

Mark 11:25
And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought
against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may
forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive,
neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your
Luke 6:37
Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye
shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven:
Mat 6:12
And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.

Forgiveness brings healing, and healing is a form of

Word 2; Blessing

Blessing in this case is not what you think. It's
the birthright blessing, or the parental approval. Each
of us has built in us a desire to receive the approval of
our parents. The same way we as Christians seek our
Father in heaven's approval. In Genesis 27 Isaac received
the blessing of his father, it was his birthright. Esau
also wanted the blessing, but he lied to get it. He
pretended to be entitled to it by masquerading as Isaac.
Each of us is more like Esau than we care to admit. Many
claim they don't want or need their parents blessing, but
when they do receive it, they are transformed by it. They
are changed. How many times have our children cried out
for our approval? The first goal in soccer, the first A in
school, the beautiful twirl of a tiny dancer, or the
fathers approval of his daughters fiancé? I have 4
children, 1 boy age 25, and 3 girls, 16, 7, and 5.
Everyday one or all of them seek approval.
I want to address you fathers of young girls for a
moment. Listen very carefully.Love your daughters, don't
be afraid to give them a meaningful touch, a warm embrace,
a gentle kiss. Pay attention to them. If you fail to do
these things, someone else will. Predators are in
abundance and more than willing to fill that void left by
an absent father. Girls more than boys need and desire
their fathers approval. I am vigilant as a father to
watch over and nurture my daughters. I am not their
friend, I am their father.

Word 3; Honor

Exo 20:12

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be
long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
Clearly, God places high up on his list of importance
honoring your father and mother. I know, many of you no
longer have your parents, or maybe never knew them at all
or very little, but we can still honor them. I didn't
know my father very much, he was in and out of my life,
(mostly out), but I loved him. Many of you still do have
your parents. Some of us might harbor bitterness,
resentment, anger, or are dying to ask why. Why were you
the way you were with me? This attitude robs us as well.
Your parents are whom they are, and we can't trade them in
on new ones. Someone once said "friendship is the only
choice in life thats ours to make, you can't choose your
family" What we can do, is change our attitude toward
them. Remember, it's the Love of God that leads to
repentance (change). It was God's Love for us, and a
desire to please him(the blessing), that made us change;
we honor god in our lives, in hopes of prolonging our


A word of caution, don't terry too long to mend your
relationships. I avoided my father for 8 years. I was
ashamed of him and also I didn't want him to bring me
down. I was a criminal, making and dealing drugs and
such. I used to think to myself "my father will mess
things up for me, I don't want him around. He came
looking for me a few times, but never found me. He
returned home to Las Cruces (the Crosses) Eight years
later, I woke up one morning, married to a beautiful
woman, I had a wonderful son, and I cleaned up my life. I
was "doing it" living the American dream. I suddenly
desired to find my father and show off my many
accomplishments. I wanted his approval. My dream reunion
quickly turned to mourning. My uncle informed me that my
father put a gun to his head on mothers day 1987. He left
a note.

"Nobody wants me, nobody loves me. Please spread my ashes
in the Pacific Ocean where I used to fish with my son

Might are the regrets of a selfish son, and heavy is the
burden of another lost soul.
Recognize the good, no matter how small it may be, and
honor it.
Recognize the sacrifice, no matter how small, and honor
Recognize the fact that honoring your father and mother is
VERY important to God

Three Building Words;

Word 4; Truth

John 14:6
I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto
the Father, but by me.
John 17:17
Sanctify them through thy truth: thy word is truth.

John 8:31-32
Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye
continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed;
And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you

Right doctrine, brings right behavior, and what we
believe, we trust. In order to build something, it
requires action. Nobody ever built a bridge in his sleep,
and nobody ever mended a fence in his dreams. To build on
our family relationships, we have to take action. We
can't wait for it to happen, we must cause it to happen.
We have the promises of God, the hope of the empty tomb,
and the power of His spirit to enable us.

Jude 20-25

But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy
faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the
love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus
Christ unto eternal life. And on some have compassion,
making a distinction; but others save with fear, pulling
them out of the fire, hating even the garment defiled by
the flesh

Glory to God
Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling,
And to present you faultless
Before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy,
To God our Savior,
Who alone is wise,
Be glory and majesty,
Dominion and power,
Both now and forever.

(most holy faith, refers to the body of truth that is the Word of God)

Word 5; Church

I Tim 3:14-15

These things I write to you, though I hope to come to you shortly; but if I am delayed, I write so that you may know how you ought to conduct yourself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth.

Matthew 16:18
And I also say to you that you are Peter, and on this rock I will build My church, and the gates of Hades shall not prevail against it.

Hebrews 13:17

Obey those who rule over you, and be submissive, for they watch out for your souls, as those who must give account. Let them do so with joy and not with grief, for that would be unprofitable for you.

God is a God of order, He is alive, and His word is truth this is His house, and he protects it.  He has given to us overseers and a leadership structure, with Jesus as the head. We are to submit to them, so that they may serve God with joy, not with grief. Failing to do so would only remove any profitability from being here.  Being an active part of a fellowship is crucial to building a God modeled home. Being in fellowship with believers, helps keep us in fellowship with our families.  Serving in our church, sets an example of thankfulness and appreciation for our children and our neighbors. Starting

early weaves it into our children's fabric of life.  Serving in our church is one way of drawing near to God.
Like the coals in a fire, they glow bright when close together, but when one is moved away, how quickly it's glow fades.

Word 6: Commitment

Joshua 24: 14-15

“Now therefore, fear the Lord, serve Him in sincerity and in truth, and put away the gods which your fathers served on the other side of the River and in Egypt. Serve the Lord! And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.”

Psalm 37:3-5

Trust in the Lord, and do good;
Dwell in the land, and feed on His faithfulness.
Delight yourself also in the Lord,
And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
Commit your way to the Lord
Trust also in Him,
And He shall bring it to pass.

Deut 30:19

I call heaven and earth as witnesses today against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing; therefore choose life, that both you and your descendants may live.

 If life were a quiz, then it would be an open book quiz. Everything required for life and Godliness is contained in scripture.  If we commit our ways to Him, He shall bring it to pass.  He tells us, "Choose life and Good", so that we and our descendants may live.  Commitment is a choice, one we have to make everyday, over and over.  It's not a passing fancy, but a continual devotion to God, and a desire to please Him. In doing so, the rewards are great, told and untold. Now and into the future.

One Transforming Word

Word 7: Love

John 15:13
Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. Jesus demonstrated Love like no other ever has , is, or ever will. He willingly laid down His life, that we may live. The holes in his hands, His feet, the thorns in His head, the wounds on His back, are evidence of His unwavering Love

2 Cor 4:5-7

For we do not preach ourselves, but Christ Jesus the Lord, and ourselves your bondservants for Jesus’ sake. 6 For it is the God who commanded light to shine out of darkness, who has shone in our hearts to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.
But we have this treasure in earthen vessels, that the excellence of the power may be of God and not of us.

Love on others, even when we feel no love. It demonstrates God's Love  .And that's all we desire to do.

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