If you asked your teen child what are the top 3 thing hey need in life to be happy, what would they be?
A poll conducted by FATHERS.COM surprisingly found these results;
- Time spent with family
- Time spent with friends
- Time spent with a significant other.
Shocked? I was. I struggle with this from time to time. My son's teen years blew by in a blink of an eye. He is 27 now and a father of 2 boys himself. When he was about 19 I asked him what I could have done differently that he would have liked. His answer, spend more time with him instead of working so much. Talk about a dagger through my heart. I had an absent father and can remember waiting for him to come pick me up to go fishing at 4am. He never showed up, several times. I would be there with my fishing pole, tackle box, winter jacket, gloves, and a tall thermos full of coffee for him, and hot cocoa for me. I would end up pouring it down the drain. All I wanted was for him to show up. I just wanted to spend time with my dad, like the other kids in my neighborhood. I didn't care if he had money, jewels, fancy cars, or a pretty girlfriend. I just wanted him to be there. I trusted him, and he let me down time and time again. It would cripple me at times. I felt different. I felt inferior. I was at times, ashamed. It hurt me to think he had something better to do than spend time with his son. I would just cry myself back to sleep.
I believe God has a purpose for everyone. First and foremost is to know Him and His plan for salvation. Secondly is to know His individual plan for you. However, once you become a father, your dreams may have to be put on hold because God has a plan for that child, and it involves a father.
"And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." - Ephesians 6:4 NKJV