So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
Recently I was asked to officiate my second wedding. A young couple I know is getting married. Exciting time in life. I remember the time leading up to my wedding almost 20 years ago. We were on a tight budget and refused to start our life together in debt. We were not believers at the time, so our focus was just a practical one. Less stress, more bliss. Less debt, less fret. We just wanted to be together and that is all that mattered.
Flash forward 7 years and the bliss faded, the debt accumulated, the stress multiplied, the eyes wandered, and the heart strayed. It was a dark time in our life together. We were totally focused on ourselves, not our spouse. Fortunately God intervened and we gave our heart to Him. We were born again, and allowed God, through His word to instruct us as to how we should live. Only then did we gain an understanding of our spouses value in the eyes of God.
No longer did I look at my wife and think "why can't she be more of what I want"? I began to look at her through the lens of Jesus. I began to look at myself, and just how short I fall in giving her what she wants and needs. This is what I realized;
- She is made in the image of God
- Jesus stepped out of glory and became flesh to save her from her sin
- Jesus took her sin upon himself so that she might live eternally in heaven
- Jesus died for her
- Jesus rose from the dead for her
- Jesus is seated at the right hand of the Father praying for her
- Jesus forgave her, saved her, and remembers her sin no more
- Jesus providentially gave me to her, and her to me
Knowing this, how can I hurt her any more? Paul instructs us husbands in Ephesians to Love as Christ loves, sacrificially, without thought of what we will get in return. We are to love her no matter what. That is Agape love demonstrated on the cross.
Give your wife the husband she deserves, and let God give you the wife of your desires.
May 14 2014 is our 20th wedding anniversary. I can honestly tell you that God has delivered faithful and true to His word in my marriage.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO MY WIFE TISH, I HAVE LOVED YOU, LOVE YOU, AND WILL CONTINUE TO LOVE YOU INTO ETERNITY. YOU ARE PRICELESS IN GOD'S EYES, AND IN MINE.